One of the things I do most with the couples I work with is to help them find ways to connect and spend quality time together. Carving out a "date night" for couples, especially those with kids, is crucial to allow the couple time to be together and enjoy each other's company. Often, these nights are spent dining at a restaurant together. A lot of times, these conversations had when out to eat can get stagnant, and be more about organizing the family calendar and discussing the mental load.
My husband and I love to go out to eat together, and during these meals out, we created a list of questions that we thought would help deepen emotional intimacy between ourselves, and any couple willing to use them. Feel free to use this list of questions at home, on vacation, or anywhere you like to deepen your intimacy and feel closer to your partner.
What is your favorite physical feature of mine?
What drew you to me when we first met?
When did you know that you were in love with me?
What is your favorite personality trait of mine?
What is a sweet memory you have in our relationship?
What is the best part of our relationship?
What is the most fun moment you rememberhaving with me?
What do you love doing with me the most?
What is your sexual fantasy that you would like to explore with me?
When do you feel most attracted to me?
When do you desire physical intimacy the most?
What is a way that I touch you that feels good?
What is something we can do to create more opportunities to connect?
How can we create more fun and playfulness in our relationship?
Where do you see us in 5 years?
If you have one wish for our relationship what would it be?